Business Is Personal — So I Stopped Letting the Wrong People Near My Mission
The person you're in a relationship with — romantic or business — has more impact on your success than almost anything else. I learned that the hard way: trapped in a chaotic, undefined situationship that bled my energy and made me operate in survival mode, I couldn't think clearly, lead effectively, or build the business I wanted. After I left that dynamic and found a partner who gets my mission, communicates openly, and supports my structure, everything shifted — I lost fifty pounds, regained focus, and actually started building again instead of just patching leaks. In this episode we walk through the practical framework I now use for choosing and nurturing partnerships: fundamentally liking who they are, understanding and aligning with each other’s missions, having difficult conversations (I give myself a three-day rule), and mastering compromise and transparent communication. I also share tactical tools I use — from therapy and written processing to a 90-day tracker — because emotional clarity requires processes as much as courage. Listen with an honest heart and a skeptical eyebrow: look at the people closest to you, ask whether they help you grow or hold you back, and consider whether a better partnership might actually change what you’re capable of building.
Transcript
I'm going to tell you something that most people don't say out loud.
Speaker A:The person you're in a relationship with, whether romantic or business, has more impact on your success than almost anything else.
Speaker A:And if you pick the wrong person, you can be brilliant, you can be talented and have all the skills in the world and still fail.
Speaker A:Because chaos at home leads into everything.
Speaker A:I learned that the hard way.
Speaker A:And I want to tell you that story today, because if you're in the wrong relationship or partnership right now, this might be the moment you finally do something about it.
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Speaker A:So I'm telling you about a relationship that nearly destroyed me, how I got out of it, and what I found on the other side.
Speaker A:Then I'm giving you the framework for choosing a partner, romantic or business, who lifts you instead of caps you.
Speaker A:So don't click off, because the best is yet to come.
Speaker A:Business is personal.
Speaker A:And here's something people don't want to admit.
Speaker A:It is not in a messy way, but in a real way.
Speaker A:Because when the CEO cannot function emotionally, mentally, and physically, the whole thing falls apart.
Speaker A:It's chaos.
Speaker A:Structure is everything.
Speaker A:When you're building something and your partner either provides that or it's destroying it, or they're destroying it.
Speaker A:I learned that from the framing of Leila Hormozi.
Speaker A:And when she talks about business, she talks about business actually being personal.
Speaker A:And she's right.
Speaker A:Your emotional and mental state determines your business health.
Speaker A:So who do you let close to you?
Speaker A:Because that matters more than your business strategy.
Speaker A: So, September: Speaker A:The wrong partner.
Speaker A: So in: Speaker A:And I need to be honest about what that looked like.
Speaker A:We did not like each other fundamentally.
Speaker A:We didn't even like each other as friends, really, but we felt committed to each other.
Speaker A:Or at least that's what it felt like.
Speaker A:It was one of those undefined Unclear situationships where nobody really respected the other person.
Speaker A:But we kept showing up anyways.
Speaker A:When there's no clarity, there's no respect.
Speaker A:And without respect, there's nothing.
Speaker A:And here's the thing.
Speaker A:I was the same way as a leader back then.
Speaker A:I was aggressive.
Speaker A:I demanded respect instead of earning it.
Speaker A:You have to respect me because I'm your boss.
Speaker A:I'm the boss.
Speaker A:And that's not the way that you should be leading a team.
Speaker A:So I'm going to be sharing that with you today.
Speaker A:And aggressiveness is not respectful.
Speaker A:It's a fight for control.
Speaker A:So I had an aggressive, controlling boss at work, and I was also an aggressive, controlling boss at work.
Speaker A:I was in a toxic, undefined relationship at home.
Speaker A:And everything in that entire circle of my life was aggressive.
Speaker A:Inside my personal life and inside my professional life, it was all chaos.
Speaker A:And that chaos was exhausting.
Speaker A:Can you imagine being with someone that you don't really like?
Speaker A:So do you understand what that does to you?
Speaker A:Like, your mental is strained at home, your mental is strained at work.
Speaker A:You don't have peace anywhere.
Speaker A:So your nervous system is constantly activated.
Speaker A:You can't think clearly, you can't make good decisions.
Speaker A:You're literally just surviving.
Speaker A:And the worst part is I didn't even realize how much that relationship was holding me back until I got out of it.
Speaker A:I mean, I was so used to chaos that it felt normal.
Speaker A:I normalized it.
Speaker A:So what does the right person actually do now?
Speaker A:Fast forward.
Speaker A:I'm going to be honest.
Speaker A:I'm going to let you guys on a top secret information.
Speaker A:I'm in a new situation and it's completely something different.
Speaker A:Like it's like night and day.
Speaker A:Like my current partner, we're communicative.
Speaker A:We actually like each other.
Speaker A:We have difficult conversations.
Speaker A:We don't shy away from them.
Speaker A:And we're completely transparent about what bothers us, what we need and what we're struggling with.
Speaker A:Now, that didn't come overnight.
Speaker A:So I don't want you guys to think that this just happened out of nowhere.
Speaker A:These are things that we built together and we're constantly building.
Speaker A:And we're not afraid to say that we are human.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:So the key point is the best partners are the ones you can be completely honest with.
Speaker A:No hiding, no fear, no hurting each other's feelings, because your feelings matter to each other.
Speaker A:And if that person understands who you are as a person, then you're unstoppable.
Speaker A:My partner completely understands what kind of person I am.
Speaker A:I'm super structured.
Speaker A:I'm disciplined.
Speaker A:I go to the gym three to four times out of the week.
Speaker A:I cook my meals, I am taking new courses all the time.
Speaker A:I'm recording content like this today.
Speaker A:I'm interacting, I'm selling, I'm building.
Speaker A:And my time, time is very thin.
Speaker A:And if you know me, you guys know that I live for my calendars.
Speaker A:And instead of saying, I miss you, but you never have time for me, he just gets it.
Speaker A:Like, he understands that my mission is exactly the mission that he's a part of and he supports it.
Speaker A:So that's when everything changed.
Speaker A:I actually feel like finding a better partner helped me lose 40 plus pounds.
Speaker A:I'm actually 50 pounds down now.
Speaker A:My confidence came back tenfold and my focus came back because I'm not bleeding energy into a relationship that's changing or draining me.
Speaker A:I'm loving a relationship.
Speaker A:So here's what I learned.
Speaker A:And this applies to romantic partners, business partners, anybody that's close to you.
Speaker A:First and foremost, you have to like them fundamentally like who they are.
Speaker A:Because people grow and change.
Speaker A:So you need to like them enough to keep learning who they become.
Speaker A:Second, understand their mission.
Speaker A:If your partner doesn't understand why you're doing what you're doing or doesn't support it, it creates constant conflict.
Speaker A:But if they get it, they become your biggest asset.
Speaker A:Third, learn to have difficult conversations.
Speaker A:And I've talked about this before, this impacts the type of leader you will be, the type of business owner you will be, but it also is super important in relationships.
Speaker A:So this is everything.
Speaker A:I don't like to talk when I'm super upset, and I even won't address things that work when I'm super upset.
Speaker A:So in my relationship, I give myself three days.
Speaker A:And if I'm still upset about something and I haven't addressed it in those three days, then I bring in other tools.
Speaker A:I start talking to my therapist.
Speaker A:I'm either writing it down, whatever it takes to communicate whatever I'm upset about without being disrespectful.
Speaker A:That is the most important thing in the relationship that I'm in now.
Speaker A:So the difference between people who make it and people who don't is communication.
Speaker A:And that's literally it.
Speaker A:And I mean that in business, I mean that in personal life, I mean that in every relationship you have.
Speaker A:So don't make emotional decisions in anger, don't cuss them out and dig a deeper hole.
Speaker A:Learn to pause, learn to cool down, learn to come back with clarity.
Speaker A:Fourth and foremost, understand compromise.
Speaker A:It is not about winning.
Speaker A:You don't need to be competing with each other.
Speaker A:It's both of you understanding, okay, my partner is growing differently than me or at a different level than me.
Speaker A:And I need to meet them where they are while supporting them in their mission.
Speaker A:Now, what this means, because I want to break this down a bit.
Speaker A:You don't have to compete to be where they are.
Speaker A:Exactly.
Speaker A:But understand how to reconnect with them.
Speaker A:And there's nothing wrong with really saying, hey, how do I meet you and support you on where you're at?
Speaker A:What do you need from me?
Speaker A:I think a lot of times we fail to have that difficult conversation.
Speaker A:And like I said, difficult conversations are a part of a relationship.
Speaker A:So the business parallel.
Speaker A:And this is what it takes to build a good business.
Speaker A:The same values that make a good partner, make a good leader, a good team, a good culture.
Speaker A:It brings clarity.
Speaker A:It brings transparency, honesty and compromise and communication.
Speaker A:These are not just relationship skills, they're business skills.
Speaker A:You need to be able to have difficult conversations.
Speaker A:You need to be able to be transparent even when it's uncomfortable.
Speaker A:You need to understand other people's missions and learn how to support them.
Speaker A:You might not like it, you might not understand it will take some time and understand it.
Speaker A:Maybe you actually just don't like it.
Speaker A:It's okay to separate from people, but understanding that it's not about changing somebody, it's about accepting who they are for where they are.
Speaker A:People are not always going to be great towards you, but if you can communicate clearly, pivot and keep moving, you're going to succeed.
Speaker A:So here's what I want you to do.
Speaker A:Look at the people closest to you.
Speaker A:Romantic business, mentors, collaborators, all of those.
Speaker A:Ask yourself, do they understand my mission and can I be honest with them?
Speaker A:Are they helping me grow?
Speaker A:Are they holding me back?
Speaker A:Because the right partnership doesn't just feel good, it actually changes what you're capable of building.
Speaker A:And listen, building something real with the right people takes consistency.
Speaker A:It takes showing up every day, even when it's hard.
Speaker A:If you want to stay accountable to your own standards while you're building and growing.
Speaker A:I made a 90 day tracker.
Speaker A:It's a tool I use.
Speaker A:And the link is down below.
Speaker A:Download the PDF and let's help each other build together.
Speaker A:That's it, you guys.
Speaker A:If this resonated with you, especially if you're in a partnership that's holding you back, like share, comment and subscribe.
Speaker A:On the next episode, we're going to be talking more about your mental health, your physical and spiritual health directly and how it determines your business success.
Speaker A:See you guys in the next one.
Speaker A:Keep building by.
